Q: When you talk about pornography being a sexual sin, does that include strip bars? Someone I care about says that when they go to a strip bar that they are just appreciating God’s beauty and have no intention of touching or sleeping with these women. This person is also happily married. He is not tempted with pornography, just strip clubs.
A: Strip clubs produce the same effect as pornography. He is looking at a woman, other than his wife, for the purpose of sexual gratification. That's sin. He is not just appreciating God’s beauty, that's an excuse to justify sin. The Bible says that he is committing adultery in his heart. Jesus says in Matthew 5:27-28: “You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
This sin will be a barrier to intimacy with his wife. It either is already or it will be soon. Sexual sin attacks and destroys relationships. Men that are caught in the bondage of this sin view women as objects, and this is not God's plan. Pray that your friend will open his eyes to the truth about the damage he is doing to himself and his marriage.
Wednesday, October 24, 2007
Q and A left over from "Let's Talk about Sex"
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But what does it mean to look at a woman lustfully? It is a fact that God made us to be physically attracted to the oppsite sex. So there is a point where looking at the oppsite sex is simply doing what is part of how we are wired. It is my opinion that what one person sees as beauty to be looked at and appreciated may be anothers person step into adultry. But it is not sin to admire the body of a man or woman.
I agree that the human body is a beautiful thing and that God made us to be attracted to it. I think to make a case that going to strip clubs is just appreciating God's beautiful creation, however, is really an excuse for self indulgence. There is a lot of tastefully done art featuring the human body that showcase God's amazing handiwork. (Michaelangelo's David comes to mind.)I think it is possible to see such artwork and appreciate it for what it is - art. (There is also a lot of erotic art, which I am not referring to here.) Strip clubs, on the other hand, don't feature the human body as art, but rather as sexual objects. The purpose of the dancers is to excite the patrons sexually, weaken their sensible thinking, and then extract money from their pockets. Also, think of the dignity of the women and men who make a living that way, not to mention the fact that the people who run these clubs are frequently associated with organized crime. It is really just a lot of exploitation going on. If your friend is not a Christian, I wouldn't expect him care about the sin aspect of his behavior, and that's not the most important thing be discussing with him anyway. Relationship with God first, then issues such as this later. If your friend does have a personal relationship with God he should be honest with himself and his wife and see the strip club for what it really is. If appreciation of beauty is truly the goal, then maybe a trip to an art museum may be a better choice.
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